Relationship with parental figures, and why you picked them. Profile of personal achievements, attitudes, philosophies and unfinished business. Where one reviews and learns the why and where of your ideals.
We learned the Life Dramas in the 4th Wisdom; Enforcer, Criticizer, Avoider, Complainer and Pleaser and discovered "Energy Takers" methods in the 5th Wisdom. You may wonder where you learned your control style from. This Wisdom will help you to uncover what you learned in childhood to get the energy moving your way in a positive manner.
We have to remember parents, siblings and family members operate under their own control styles to gain energy. As children we learned to strategize to win that energy back. The same goes for our parents, their parents and their grandparents and so on.... Have you thought that you may be perpetuating a century's old energy habit passed down from generation to generation just waiting for the one, YOU to break the cycle? Don't you see how important this is? And how important YOU are?! Your ancestors have been waiting for YOU!
The key of awareness is the transformational attitudes to interpret your family experiences from a higher spiritual point of view to discover who they really are and who you really are. If we understand the control styles involved we can get passed the illusions and see what is real through a compassionate awareness of Love. On one hand, we are driven by unconscious programming from childhood and literally "know not what we do". On the other hand, through spiritual evolution we have the ability to learn our energy history and transform ourselves in the process.
To find the true self we must go back and review your family experiences. Each person is born in the position between values and spiritual truths of their parents. Your path of discovery is awakening the higher synthesis of what these people believed. However difficult this may be, you must remained focused on the higher truth of your familial purpose and look beyond and above the energy conflicts. Remember the energy interplays are by-products and direct results of what they learned.
The following questions are about your parental relationship in early childhood. Go through each question and write down your answers in your "Philosophy of Life" book. Remember these are exercises for your spiritual growth and will take some deep thinking. These questions may be the toughest to answer and the memories could be uncomfortable. The depth at which you go is up to you. Being honest with yourself for here is the next step you need to take for healing and awareness.
I think this is the most critical of the lessons because it opens the door to understanding of your past which leads to understanding in the present. This exercise can be extremely powerful. It's now time to search for the real reasons you are here. It's time to read your story if you are daring enough.
- For each of your parents or significant parental figures: describe your Father and Mother, the person they were, what did they do for a living, personalities, mottos, life philosophies, behaviors, attitudes, likes/dislikes, opinions and religious stances.
- What do you feel was missing from your Father's and Mother's life?
- What would they have done if they could have done anything they wanted?
- Describe how you are like each parent.
- What do you think they could have done better? from your perceptions..
- What traits do you have from them physically, emotionally, philosophically?
- What did my parents teach me?
- What viewpoint would I choose for myself?
- How do I combine both approaches?
- What are the Life Dramas in my family life and does it carry over into your adult life?
- Do gender roles in familial life help and/or hinder your current personal attitudes and views? Explain why.
- What are you thoughts about struggles and disagreements in intimate relationships and family life?
- How has death been viewed in the past and now in the present? Can you think of favorable or unfavorable circumstances related to death and dying?
One can develop those missing elements from the parents into your own life by combining and recognizing their philosophies. What the parents left unfinished can help you see the direction you have to develop yourself. The real you is the higher synthesis of what they believed. If you look closely at all the things that have happened to your family your life becomes an incredible story. By this understanding you can then describe your own purpose. You in fact, have been working on your life questions all of your life. You may now be able to answer:
What was the purpose of choosing my parents? Why was I born to this family?
The 4th through the 7th Wisdoms are really all connected in the way the energy dynamic plays a role in your life. You may experience these in a different order at different times. These subtleties are layered much like a cake is layered. You may be dealing with parental issues that expand your adult awareness as in the 4th Wisdom. This may include many feelings such as fear, loneliness, love, hate, anger, abandonment, and one of bewilderment of the reason of "why". By understanding what you feel about what your parents thoughts and ideals were/are, (7th Wisdom) you can therefore connect with those Life Dramas because it is then you understand the dynamic of their lives and how they have learned to gain energy (5th Wisdom). At that point you can change those negative feelings around to one of understanding and love (6th Wisdom). The crux to this transformation is love and deep compassion through understanding.
Getting clear of or at least your growing awareness of your family Life Dramas open the way to your spiritual evolution. You begin to see how other relationships in everyday life operate, from a new perspective. You see the energy interactions and how to deal with it. It make take practice to change a feeling of anger towards a family member, spouse, significant other, or coworker, to one of love. It works wonders if you are conscious of it. Once you have learned and turned your negative feelings from your past and present life into one of understanding based in love, you can move on into the next stage of the soul's awareness at a higher frequency. Your past holds the keys to your Now.
Love is the key to building your energy. Hate destroys it. Familial behavior, if you look, can be traced back from generation to generation. Quite an amazing breakthrough! You do have the ability to change right here and now in this lifetime. Granted it is not an easy task to conquer. With this new-found realization you can therefore open up yourself to the Universal Energy. The circle continues.
We are all born into historical situations with a variety of backgrounds. If we look with compassionate eyes we can see the human library of experiences in all we meet. We gain a profound new understanding of others. We transform ideals, thoughts, and actions into a loving awareness by comprehending a higher purpose regarding others' births. Each person is pursuing their history of consciousness and following their spiritual mission in the evolution of the self.
Now that you are aware of your personal history you have an obligation to your children and the next generations beyond. Passing on the conscious awareness of love and compassion is an ongoing lesson, not only for ourselves but for our entire future. We are investing energy for the whole of mankind and the web of interwoven relationships to come. It's up to you to break to the control styles in your family history. What are you passing on to future generations?
World transformation starts with the self! Congratulations, you have evolved to the next level of awareness.